I have an amazing show for you today. [remember to Subscribe Here] I’m joined by a man I can now call a friend, and one that makes our roles as men better because he’s here to help us make smart moves and go boldly into that good night.
My guest today is Ryan Michler of ORDER OF MAN. Through his site, podcast, and personal missions, Ryan is driven to take back what it means to be a man, and he wants us all to learn together – from the best men the world has to offer. From interviews like this one, to personal stories of struggle and success, everyone in the Order of Man takes with him a piece of the lessons to apply in his life.
He grew up without a permanent father figure in his life, missing out on some of the wholesome ‘fatherly” moments you might see on TV – playing catch, working on a car together, building a treehouse, etc.
He and I share the same sentiment that there is, in fact, a difference between being a male and being a man, and we’re both working to help make men better. As a father, he takes his commitments and agreements to heart, and works to build solid foundations and principles with and for his kids.
Ryan and I got the chance to meet and trade stories in person in mid-March at StyleCon 2016 in Atlanta, and I knew I wanted to share his wisdom with you, my listeners.
Definitely make your way to orderofman.com and discover more about his mission, his story, and his wisdom, including the Iron Council – a division dedicated to helping men develop deeper, more meaning full relationships with their spouses, families, and themselves. It’s about setting fire to the possibilities around you.
Okay, quick note on the audio here, guys. The first 2 minutes of audio is completely unusable so that’s why it’s missing. The internet can be a fickle beast sometimes and the audio was so choppy through Skype, it has to be thrown out.
Let’s open the interview by jumping right into Ryan’s story and his take on what he sees going on in society – and WHY he started Order of Man.
In the game of life, we are all seeking better performance. Whether that means better performance at our jobs, our relationships, our athletics, or in the bedroom, we want to be better – we need to be better. When it comes to actually achieving that better-ness, we often seek answers and solutions in the wrong direction. We chase external supplements, external validation, comparisons, and even approval from people beneath us. In our quest for better performance, we often discount ourselves for the validation from someone else. This is no good.
The secret to better performance in everything is actually pretty simple: it's a game of you vs. you.
Let's explore what this all means.
Entrepreneurs know the impact haters can have on their success, and more importantly, look for them as an indicator that they're on the right track. As an owner of several ventures, I'm always on the lookout for detractors and naysayers because they provide me with motivation that I can't get from my best cheerleaders. Strange as it may sound, someone looking at your ideas and telling you they're not possible or impractical or stupid or ridiculous or (fill in the blank) will often light a fire inside you to prove them wrong.
Rather than talk about what you need to do to make your haters happy, let's instead explore 7 ways your haters are important for your success. Take a listen: