Breaking up is hard to do. At the same time, staying in a relationship that doesn't serve either party is also hard to do. Unfortunately, we are willing to do more of the latter that we are of the former, and that's a disservice to ourselves and each other. Look, it sucks to break up, but it also sucks to be in an unhappy relationship.
A fair amount of my clients (and emails I receive) ask what they should do to exit their unfulfilling relationships. They've read other posts and episodes about listening and building better partnerships with their significant other, but the issues aren't meant to be improved – they're signs the relationship isn't meant to continue any longer.
When you get that gut feeling that, "oh man, this is over –we have to break up," there are a few things you must do in order to keep a level head and move forward. This episode is a double whammy because I'm discussing the signs you know the relationship is over, and what you need to do next to get you through it.